As you can see, I’m still in Olympic mode with the title of this post, “Pass the torch, please!”. But no, it’s not the Olympics I’m talking about. My post this week has to do with passing on all the information we have learned in the various seminars we have attended and the books we have read , to our children.
This is something I have been thinking about a lot lately. We have learned so much over the past few years about life, passion, purpose and wealth… how do we impart all this on our children?
If there is one thing I know, it’s children learn by example. That seems easy enough, but how do we incorporate these learnings in every day life so our children (who are quite young, aged 7, 5 and 4) can learn these important lessons. Sometimes I think this is hard, because well, we just learned many of these lessons ourselves!
I guess the main thing is to start with what you know, and depending on their age, to bring it ‘down to their level’. That is, because our children are so young, we may not go into a high level of information. For example, with finance, you may not want to go into the finer details of making a covered call… and on the personal development level, they may not know their purpose in life just yet! However, you can start with baby-steps and give them the basic learning reflected in situations in every day life.
For example, today the kids were fighting quite a bit; constantly at each other with the cry, “Well he started it!” and so on. So later tonight Is spoke with them about the fighting and their attitude of someone else ‘always has it better’. I talked to them about ‘what goes around comes around’ and the way they treat others, and basically the world, is the way others and the world will treat them. That is, if one of them is never willing to share, they can’t expect that their brothers/sister will want to share in return.
Chris and I also believe in the power of gratitude, and to make sure the children know this, we have incorporated the ‘gratitude rock’ at dinner time. That is, the kids selected a rock from the garden and then painted it. We then use the rock as a sort of ‘talking stick’ at the dinner table, where the person who is holding it gets to say what they are grateful for that day. We are trying to focus the kids on being grateful for what they have, rather than always looking for more things (usually material things like toys and games) to make them ‘happy’. We also use this as a time to share what we like/love about each other (”I like the way Jack kicks the ball with me in the back yard”) and so on.l
So if you can incorporate any of the lessons you love in your daily life, your children are sure to follow. It will then become a habit for them, rather than something they have to attend a personal development course for later in life!
Unit next time, here’s to your succes!
Ann Eldridge